| Okay,
you’re sitting with girl on your bed.
She's
making out with your tongue, playing field hockey with
your tonsils.
You
kiss her neck while you pass your palm over her breasts
through her shirt and with the other hand stroke her
thigh.
You
slip one of your hands down her jeans and start massaging
her lips with your fingers.
Then
she speaks those pesky words you prayed you wouldn’t
hear.
“No…
stop… we shouldn’t be doing this…”
she says.
You
feel that disappointing feeling of frustration. So
close, and yet what do you do?
Most
guys unfortunately either 1) stop moving forward, 2)
start begging for sex, or 3) start arguing with the
girl as to why she should continue.
With
all three strategies however, you’re playing with
matches on a wooden boat.
Most
likely they’ll backfire and the ship will sink.
If
you stop moving forward with the hopes that you’ll
show her that you’re sensitive to her feelings
and a swell guy, she may just come to the conclusion
that you’re another “nice guy” who
folded at the very first sign of resistance –
not very sexy.
In
any case, if you stop she’ll most likely pop out
of state and you’ll have a lot of backtracking
to do.
If
you start begging like, “Please… girl…
just let me take this bra off… come on baby…
please baby…” you’ll come across as
needy and desperate to get into her pants. Begging also
engages the woman’s neocortex which is responsible
for reasoning and critical judgment – and frames
sexual escalation into a yes/no choice for the woman.
In
other words, you’re placing all the power of sexual
escalation into the woman’s hands – specifically
into the hands of her critical mind that’s responsible
for acceptance or rejection – which is exactly
where you DON’T want the power to be.
For
example, imagine you’re at a car dealership and
you’re on the fence about buying this new car.
You’ve just met the salesman that afternoon –
so naturally you don’t know if he’s completely
trustworthy, even though he may seem to be.
You
hesitate whether you should buy the car or not and suddenly
the salesman starts pleading with you to buy the car.
He begs of you, “Come on… please buy this
car… do it for me… I really need this commission…”
You’re
not going to instantly feel sorry for him and buy the
car. In fact, his neediness will probably turn you off.
You may even begin to start to think of every reason
NOT to buy the car.
Arguing
with a woman using rational reasoning too is simply
a form of sophisticated begging. For example, you might
argue with a woman, “Yes… but we’ve
already known each other for two weeks… what’s
the big deal? Sex is natural.”
You
MAY convince her to move forward, but it’s much
more likely she’ll simply react with counter reasons
to your reasons. Again, you’re engaging her neocortex,
the critical, judging part of the woman’s brain
that looks for reasons to stop. You’re only feeding
her resistance fuel to throw back at you.
Now,
if you have a girl isolated, sitting on your bed, and
kissing you – there's a 99% chance she *IS* willing
to sleep with you.
However,
a lot of women have intense emotional feelings when
it comes to having sex with a new guy for the first
time.
When
it comes down to the moment when she realizes that sex
is inevitable – or at least once she realizes
she’s become so turned on that if she doesn’t
stop things NOW, she'll lose control over herself and
surrender to her urges – she’ll attempt
to put up a final resistance.
“No…
this is happening so fast… please…”
she'll say.
Her
body and limbic brain responsible for lust and sex (also
referred to as the unconscious mind) is telling her
to GO, but her neocortex (the conscious mind), full
of societal programming, is telling her to hold out.
Christina
Aguilera sums it up nicely in the song Genie in a
Bottle - “My body’s saying let’s
go… but my heart is saying no.”
However,
the primal, older limbic brain will always win out over
the thinking, rational, newer neocortex.
Her
limbic brain telling her to have sex has the force of
a tsunami wave while the neocortex telling her to stop
has the force of a whisper.
So
don’t let a woman’s final resistance to
sex phase you. Most of the time it can be overcome with
some simply strategies I’m about to show you.
Instead
of stopping, begging, or arguing with a woman, follow
these simple guidelines below.
First,
SIMPLY IGNORE WHAT SHE’S SAYING AND KEEP MOVING
FORWARD.
Many
times a woman will verbally say one thing, but
with her body say something completely different.
She may say, “No please…” verbally
but give you no physical resistance whatsoever. In fact,
I had a girl telling me, “We shouldn’t be
doing this,” WHILE she was unfastening
her bra!
So
in many cases you can just IGNORE her token resistance
and keep going. She crumbles in now time flat.
If
she keeps saying, “We shouldn’t really be
doing this…” and you sense the situation
calls for you to say something, simply start talking
SEXY-DIRTY to her.
Her:
“Oh god… we shouldn’t be doing this…”
You:
“You’re right… we shouldn’t
do this… it’s so bad…”
And
keep going.
You
may have heard the advice “agree with what she’s
saying” before. Indeed, agreeing with her disengages
her logical, rational mind which is the source of all
mental resistance. After all, how can she argue with
someone who’s agreeing with her?
But
it’s more than that.
Think
of it as SEXY-DIRTY talk to get her WET and speak it
like that – with a husky, sex voice (for more
on this subject look into my course Blissnosis).
If
she continues to put up a more adamant resistance, especially
if she uses physical resistance such as pulling
your hand away, she is willing to sleep with you but
you’re moving TOO FAST for her.
Men
need very little sexual stimulation to be ready for
sex. But women require more time, and it varies from
girl to girl.
Some
girls only need ten minutes of tongue to tongue make-out
before they’ll feel comfortable enough for sex.
Other girls need to have their bodies touched and kissed
all over for an hour before they’ll feel comfortable
enough.
So
her resistance is not a plea for you to stop entirely,
but really a message for you to SLOW DOWN.
What
she says: “This is moving so fast…”
She
really means: “I like the feelings you’re
giving me… I want to do this… but I need
more kissing and cuddling first before I’m ready.
Slow down a little and we’ll both get what we
want.”
In
this case, you need to adopt the strategy of two
steps forward, one step back.
If
you’ve been kissing her mouth, neck, and brushing
over her nipples with your palms, and she begins to
give you heavy resistance when you touch her pussy,
simply BACK OFF from that area. Continue kissing her
and touching her breasts for another ten minutes. Give
her more foreplay time. This is the step back.
Then,
once she’s even hornier than before and more comfortable
with your touch, step forward again. Touch her
pussy. Most likely, she’ll put up less resistance
this time or none at all.
Back
and forward, back and forward. Repeat as many times
as necessary.
Of
course there are those girls whose neocortex gives more
than a whisper of resistance – they have so much
negative mental programming about sex (or they’re
so used to having men beg and plead for it) that all
the usual techniques fall flat and more extreme measures
are needed.
I’ll
explain how to deal with the hard cases next
time.
In
the meantime, in case you missed the notice from last
time, I’ve released Blissnosis on CD – to
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Have
fun,
Derek
Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com
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